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How Do I Handle Hostile Coworkers?

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From a young man in the U.S.: I’ve been working at a nursing home for past 2 years, I’ve had this “thing” where I shut off my emotions and have a cold, icy stare. Well everything was great until we got new workers in our department, that’s when things started getting worse.

Its been a constant fight with them to the point of wanting to coldly murder them and my supervisor without remorse since my fiancee has had her life threatened, she also works where I work, and these two people, man and woman have caused so many problems that I’m getting to point of physically beating them til there’s nothing left but a bloody pulp regardless of if I go to jail or prison.

My supervisor has told me to report them on multiple occasions just to tell them both I’m talking crap on them and honestly I hate to say this, but I feel as if there is no punishment not worth hurting them at all. I’ve started to shut out any and all emotions, and I feel as though I might do as I’ve said.

How Do I Handle Hostile Coworkers?

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Let’s see: You are willing to physically assault your coworkers and go to jail but you’re not willing to report to HR? I do understand how strongly you feel about the situation, but you aren’t making any sense. The price you would pay for getting even by hurting these people is much too high.

You and your fiancee are in a hostile work environment. There are laws and company policies intended to protect workers like yourself. Human Resource departments are generally bound by rules of confidentiality.

Do yourself and your fiancee a big, big favor and resist the impulse to get physical and take the problem through proper channels. If you don’t get a satisfactory response, consider getting a different job. Adjusting to a different job is preferable to adjusting to prison!

I wish you well.
Dr. Marie

How Do I Handle Hostile Coworkers?

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Hartwell-Walker, D. (2018). How Do I Handle Hostile Coworkers?. Psych Central. Retrieved on December 5, 2020, from
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