I feel unmotivated, stuck in life I got laid off about a year ago but, I’ve been feeling this way before then just don’t know where I’m at or where I’m going I don’t have a plan when I wake up every day I struggle to find work getting caught up in the little things like clean cook etc. I have a live-in gf and we both have one kid each living with us as well. I feel like nothing I do is good enough. negativity just lingers around more in my head even simple things I know don’t matter. I would like help but I would like to avoid drugs.
I think you are probably right, but it could be many things that are causing you to feel unmotivated. Ruling out other things can be a helpful way to begin re-engaging.
I’d make an appointment with your GP and then pick one small goal to complete for yourself each day until you get your physical. The small goal could be cleaning a closet, reading a chapter of a book, helping your child with homework, or making dinner for the family. The goal isn’t as important as setting it. It needs to be simple and brief. Doing the small goals helps us with the larger ones.
Once you have the go-ahead from the physician and there are no physical issues responsible, you may want to consider some therapy to help with the motivation. The Find Help tab at the top of this page can help you find a therapist in your area, and our forums found here can get you connected to others who have found ways to cope with similar situations.
Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: http://www.dare2behappy.com/. He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.
APA Reference Tomasulo, D. (2018). Probably Depression. Psych Central.
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