Your husband is not prioritizing your needs and expects you to manage without this provision. I suggest you choose several tasks that you normally do and stop doing them. Your husband is not likely to respond to your requests if he hasn’t already. But, when you are not doing what he expects because he is not doing what you expect, it will get his attention.
This is likely to cause some friction between you and your family and your husband. I’d encourage you to explain that you will not be able to keep your part of the bargain if he isn’t able to keep his. But do not make it an idle threat. If he doesn’t give you the money, you need stop holding up your end of the expectations, but be prepared for a conflict.
Wishing you patience and peace,
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