I do believe it is the skills we learned over time. Understanding feelings and their use in various social situations is a teachable skill and one that can happen in group therapy. I encourage you to find a group with a competent group therapist. Most forms of group therapy will teach members to give feedback to one another about their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. What may be most effective is finding a group for people your own age. This tends to help as many other teenagers may be struggling with similar issues, and working together to help one another can be a very empowering process.