I would characterize the reactions in your examples as being disproportionate to the event described. Having a breakdown in response to being served the wrong pizza is inappropriate and not the norm. The proper response would have been reporting it to the waitstaff and requesting that the problem be corrected. There should have been no emotional response of the magnitude you have described. The situation simply does not necessitate a crisis-level emotional response.
Problems happen in life. They are inevitable. They happen so often that we should expect them.
If you are having “occasional episodes of crisis,” these should be analyzed in counseling. You may be lacking problem-solving skills. This type of issue is often easily correctable. Therapy can teach you to have more appropriate responses to all types of situations.
You asked questions about a specific diagnosis. Those questions cannot be answered over the internet. Meeting with a counselor, in-person, is the best solution to this problem. Trained professionals can both answer your questions about a diagnosis and treat the problem. Mental rigidity is a common problem that can easily be remedied with counseling. I hope you will consider it. Please take care.
Dr. Kristina Randle