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Being Very Ugly

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How could I be happy when I‘m so ugly, what’s the point of life being so ugly, being forever alone, being discriminated everywhere because of the way I look.I s no way to find a partner you like, is like being doomed to be alone forever or with someone I don’t like, there is no hope to be loved by the one you love because it’s everything about looks, personality comes into play only if someone likes the way you look. So what’s the point of life if you are so ugly. Please don’t lie to me about inside beauty, and beauty is in the eye of beholder because this is not right, if you are very ugly, you are ugly for everyone. (From Romania)

Being Very Ugly

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I admire the courage to ask this question. Take a look around you. Look at the movies, TV shows, politicians, musicians, and business people. The range of looks is considerable, and the work is about how you feel about yourself, what you have to offer the world, and focusing on your strengths. It was victor Hugo who offered, “What would be ugly in a garden constitutes beauty in a mountain.” Find the value you have inside — then find the right places to let it shine.

There are people whose outward appearance may seem perfect, yet they are plagued by insecurities, low self-esteem, and despair. If their beauty were everything these things wouldn’t be. Antoine de Saint-Exupery may have said it the best: “It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye.”

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

Being Very Ugly

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: http://www.dare2behappy.com/. He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). Being Very Ugly. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 20, 2019, from https://psychcentral.com/ask-the-therapist/2018/08/15/being-very-ugly-2/
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