As you noted, it is impossible to provide definitive answers about a diagnosis over the internet. Generally speaking, everything you have described could fall within the confines of normal teenage development.
You described how little you “truly care for others or how little remorse” you feel in situations. To know that with certainty would require a deep analysis of every situation. If you find yourself in the presence of people you don’t know then it logically follows that you would have no reason to care much for them. That alone does not make you a sociopath.
Then there is the issue of remorse. People typically feel remorse when they’ve knowingly done something wrong. They feel guilty. Perhaps you didn’t do anything that would require your feeling remorse.
Your said that you are uncomfortable being around people in social situations but you also described yourself as an introvert. Introverts are shy. They feel uncomfortable in social situations. They don’t like being shy and wish they weren’t. Your anger might be the frustration you feel for being shy.
Feeling jealous and having a desire to control others is also a fairly common trait among younger people. Jealousy, because their self-esteem is still developing. People develop self-esteem through life accomplishments. Younger people are still working on those accomplishments and thus are still working on their self-esteem.
Younger people also lack a great deal of control. Their parents often rule their lives. The teenage years are the time when they are fighting for their independence. Eventually, as you become an adult, you’ll have more control of your life, and when that happens you may feel less of a desire to have control over others.
Of concern, are your explosive bursts of rage. It’s not the norm to be explosively rageful. Explosive rage can cause relationship problems as well as legal ones. This is easily correctable with counseling.
Without knowing you or your personality, and without being able to analyze your day-to-day behavior and feeling, any answer I would give would be pure speculation. You have asked very good questions and they deserve answers. The best way to do this is to meet, in-person, with a therapist. Understandably, at 16, it’s difficult to access mental health treatment on your own but it’s not impossible. You should ask your parents to assist you in seeking counseling. Another idea is to consult your school guidance counselor or your local church counseling services. These services are typically free of charge and your sessions are confidential.
I hope this helps in some small way. Thank you for your question. Please take care.
