It is not clear that there’s something “wrong” with you. Your experiences with your “friends” remind me of the film Mean Girls. It’s about a group of teenage girls who are unkind to one another because they’re competing for power. Perhaps a similar power dynamic exists among you and your friends. It’s not uncommon, especially among teenage girls, to compete for power. They may see you as a threat to their power and thus they say and do mean things in order to maintain their position.
There are several ways to handle this situation. One solution is to get new friends. You don’t want to befriend people who treat you poorly. You shouldn’t tolerate abuse. Stand up for yourself and make it clear that you will not tolerate abusive treatment.
If you do continue to interact with them, keep your distance. Don’t reveal personal information to these individuals because they may use it against you in the future.
In all likelihood, you will face other difficult people in your life. Most people will be easy to get along with but some people are not. One important lesson to learn from this experience is not to take their treatment of you personally. They may be acting a particular way towards you because of personal struggles they have in their own lives. It likely has nothing to do with you. Befriend kind, caring people and stay away from mean, unkind people, whenever possible.
If counseling is available, try it. The more support you have, the better you will feel. Please take care.
Dr. Kristina Randle