I see nothing wrong with your question. His reaction only makes sense as a “last straw” – if you have a pattern of unreasonable jealousy and not trusting him. But maybe what he is characterizing as your “jealousy” is a reasonable response to his behavior.
I’m curious about why you want to stay with someone who controls what you can talk about by storming out and telling you that you are ruining the relationship. He knows your background and, from what you wrote, it looks like he uses that information to hurt you.
You two are in your 40s. You are not kids. Your patterns of relating are pretty well set. His pattern of blaming and leaving or threatening to leave isn’t likely to change. Look deep inside yourself before marrying this guy. I think you deserve better.
I wish you well.