From a teen in India: My mom has not been getting along with my dad for some time now. Its making the entire environment of the house very intense. Its like sitting on a time bomb and trying to get it to explode. My mom, she’s very career oriented and we all support that through whatever she needs,
but recently she told me that the reason she wants to be financially independent is so that she can get separated from my dad. My dad is an amazing person, full of life and energy. I don’t know what happened suddenly after 19 years but now on the weekends when my dad is home she stops taking part in family matters and starts acting weird, which makes the entire environment of the house quite heated.
I asked her to try counselling but she started screaming at me and considering that I’m enrolling myself in Psychology major, it’s sad. I don’t know what to do.How Do I Handle When My Mom Is Being Weird about My Dad?
It was not wise of your mother to share information with you that is painful for you and that you can do nothing about. But what is done is done. I suspect that your dad is well aware that your mom is distancing herself from him.
This is a matter between your parents. Although you may want your parents to get counseling, you can’t make it happen. If your dad wants to keep the marriage, he needs to face the problems. It might be helpful for him to get into counseling and then to urge your mom to join him.
It’s important for you to remember that parents who can’t find a way to get along with each other can still have solid and loving relationships with their kids. Focus on your relationship with each of them separately. At 18, you are about to launch your own adult life. Although it complicates things, you don’t need your parents to be sharing a household to be close to each of them.
I wish you well.