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How to Move on from the Past and Repair a Relationship?

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My fiance and I separated. I’ve come to realize we both relied on each other a lot and didn’t have the best communication. The day he left, he said that he wouldn’t cheat or fall in love with someone else. He told me he just needed some time alone. He texted and called me everyday. Sometimes he’d be angry, but other times he’d agree to really talk and work on things. Now I’m at his apartment for a week, and it’s on and off. He’ll say he loves me, we were intimate. He’ll cuddle me. But he says we’re just friends. I came here to talk about repairing things and prove to him I can be independent. But I don’t know how to help him move on with the past. I don’t know how to improve our trust in each other and communication. He’s giving me so many mixed signals.

How to Move on from the Past and Repair a Relationship?

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The mixed signals are on both sides. If you tolerate his actions it gives him the implicit message that his behavior is something you’ll complain about but continue to go along with.

Tell him what you need, and ask him if he is willing to work toward that. Only in this way can both of your stop sending mixed signals and determine if you can move forward.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

How to Move on from the Past and Repair a Relationship?

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: http://www.dare2behappy.com/. He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

APA Reference
Tomasulo, D. (2018). How to Move on from the Past and Repair a Relationship?. Psych Central. Retrieved on January 15, 2019, from https://psychcentral.com/ask-the-therapist/2018/07/02/how-to-move-on-from-the-past-and-repair-a-relationship/
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