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My Sister Was Sexually Abused When She Was a Child

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My sister was sexsually abused when she was a child. she is not talking about details.she was abused by family friend’s son aged 17. she is still keeping in touch with him and calls him as brother. and she is accusing herself because of abuse. she call herself a prostutite. she says i didnt understand his behaviour as sexually. i think he touched her genitals. and she says she thought his behaviour was normal because our father loves her touching. my father is bipolar. now i am suspecting him. but he wasnt molesting us and he loves our sister and us i dont know what to think.

My Sister Was Sexually Abused When She Was a Child

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It may be that she doesn’t remember the abuse. It’s also possible that she does but isn’t psychologically ready to handle it. She may not want to talk about it. It might be too traumatic. Abuse often causes psychological trauma.

It’s not uncommon for abuse survivors to forgive their abusers. Some survivors report feeling guilty for their being upset at their abuser. Many still love their abusers despite the pain that they have endured. The emotional impact of sexual abuse can be complex and confusing.

Don’t feel that it is your responsibility to address the issue. It is not. If she doesn’t want to talk about it, that is okay. Be supportive. Encourage her to seek counseling. She may or may not come to terms with what happened. In fact, she may not even know what fully happened. Unfortunately, that is the nature of abuse. Perpetrators do not often willingly confess their abuse. The people who sustained the abuse may be too traumatized to remember it or don’t want to discuss it and thus the true nature of the abuse often remains a deeply-held secret.

Don’t push your sister to do anything that she is not ready to do. If she wants to talk to you about it, then she will but ideally, encourage her to consult an expert. Another option is family therapy. Family therapy can rebuild intimate family relationships that have been damaged by abuse. Good luck and please take care.

Dr. Kristina Randle

My Sister Was Sexually Abused When She Was a Child

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Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW

Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW is a licensed psychotherapist and Assistant Professor of Social Work and Forensics with extensive experience in the field of mental health. She works in private practice with adults, adolescents and families. Kristina has worked in a large array of settings including community mental health, college counseling and university research centers.

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Randle, K. (2018). My Sister Was Sexually Abused When She Was a Child. Psych Central. Retrieved on August 7, 2020, from
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