With the little information you’ve provided it is really difficult to determine what she might be feeling towards you. We know that she does not hug you. At least we know that she finds it uncomfortable or thinks that it would be inappropriate. The fact that she does not hug you may mean many things. It may mean that she believes that the two of you are simply friends. Whether or not friends, the intention with which you give a person a hug is completely dependent on the nature of the relationship. There really are no “normal” characteristics of friendship with regard to physical contact, with a few exceptions. Generally, friends do not usually sit on each other’s lap, kiss each other, or engage in sexual relations (I guess unless it is a “friends with benefits,” situation, but that’s a whole different topic).
What may be going on is that you are attracted to her and are remaining a “friend” hoping that it becomes something more. If that is what you are doing then I wonder if you really are a “friend” or pretending to be one just to be close to her. She may also sense this and not want to encourage this scenario to play out. Though it’s hard to know what her feelings might be.
You may also believe that you and she are more than friends. You seem to have some expectation about her behavior. The proof of this may be that her non-hugging behavior disappoints you.
There is only one way to know for certain how she feels about you. Ask her. If you like her then you should tell her. Trying to interpret her behavior (or lack thereof) is nearly impossible and an inefficient use of your time. I’d recommend that you be honest with her about how you feel and when you do, you’ll be closer to the clarity you’ve been wishing for.
This article has been updated from the original version, which was originally published here on May 18, 2009.