Ever since the start of my sophomore year, I have slowly drifted away from my friends and classmates. It is to the point that we do not even say “hi” in the hallways anymore. I am unable to find the motivation to talk to others and often have periods of sadness. This loneliness has been going on for months. I only talk to people when I am forced to, such as class group assignments or extracurricular activities. There is only one person that I am willing to talk to — my boyfriend.
Every time I see someone, all I think about is their flaws and how they have hurt me. I am unable to fully trust anyone else and am always on the watch to protect myself.
I come to school every day without having anyone to talk to during class since my boyfriend does not have any similar classes with me. I have definitely felt a substantial decrease in happiness and motivation levels. I am having worse and worse performance in academics as opposed to previous years of school.
I constantly feel down and sad all the time because I do not have anyone to open up to, and I am afraid to talk to my parents about it. They do not understand. They think that I CHOOSE to only talk to one person. But he’s the only option I have because no one willingly talks to me as well.
You are choosing to talk to just one person. You described yourself as “slowly drifting away from friends and classmates” partially because you lack motivation because of sadness and loneliness. If you’re less conversational with them, they will likely be less conversational with you. Thus, it makes sense that your friend group has significantly diminished.
If you suspect a mental health problem, it is wise to seek professional help. Ask your parents to assist you in finding a local therapist who specializes in depression among adolescents. Too many people suffer with treatable mental health problems. Don’t be one of them. With counseling, this problem can be easily resolved.
I hope that you will take my advice and ask for your parent’s help. They won’t know what’s wrong unless you tell them. I hope that you’re able to get the help that you desire. Good luck and please take care.
Dr. Kristina Randle
Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW
Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW is a licensed psychotherapist and Assistant Professor of Social Work and Forensics with extensive experience in the field of mental health. She works in private practice with adults, adolescents and families. Kristina has worked in a large array of settings including community mental health, college counseling and university research centers.
APA Reference Randle, K. (2018). Suddenly Antisocial. Psych Central.
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