From the U.S.: Everyday I wake up I’m angry. If I don’t wake up angry something small may happen and I’m mad for the entire day. If I go a whole day with nothing happening to upset me then my mind often remembers old things and then I’ll be upset about something that could have happened 3 years ago. I get very irritated about every small thing.
I just realized that I tend to push my reasoning of my anger on someone else and that it is THEIR fault that I am upset. I also tend to overthink things and my mind is always racing with so much thoughts. Sometimes I would think about old things that would make me sad but it is not as prevalent as my angry thoughts. I always have negative thoughts. Like no matter how hard I try to be positive I always end up being negative.
My friends call me a Debbie downer and a negative Nancy but it’s like I can’t help it. Sometime out the blue I get a tight feeling in my chest and I can’t breathe and then I feel like I’m going to die. One day I woke up in the middle of the night with this horrible sharp pains in my chest where I felt like I was having a heart attack (not that I know what it feels like).
I always worry about every little thing and the worry enters into my racing mind. I don’t like being upset everyday and sometimes I don’t even realize it. I sometimes get annoyed randomly and want to be alone. I don’t know what is wrong with me but I just want to feel happy again. I can’t remember a time where I was not mad. I am literally mad every single day of the week.
I’m very glad you wrote. It is a step in the right direction that you are acknowledging that you tend to blame others when, chances are, most of the time your anger is unreasonable and irrational. It could be that you are suffering from depression and anxiety. Depression doesn’t always show up as sadness. Sometimes the primary presentation is irritability and anger.
In spite of being a “downer” and negative, you do have friends, so you have positive qualities and aren’t angry 100% of the time. No one would tolerate that for long. So let’s build on that positive information. Let’s start by assuming that there is either a biological factor or maybe that you don’t have sufficient coping skills for dealing with it when you feel overwhelmed.
It would be a good idea to make an appointment with a mental health counselor to get a full assessment and to consider options for treatment.
The good news is that you are only 20. With some treatment to help you get to the bottom of this, you could have decades of a much happier life where you are no angrier than most people.
I wish you well. Dr. Marie
Why Do I Wake Up Angry Every Day?
Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker
Dr. Marie is licensed as both a psychologist and marriage and family counselor. She specializes in couples and family therapy and parent education. Follow her on Facebook or Twitter.
APA Reference Hartwell-Walker, D. (2018). Why Do I Wake Up Angry Every Day?. Psych Central.
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