My (half) brother is 46 and has always been a sensitive caring person from childhood on. In the past 7 yrs or so he has developed an alcohol problem. My best guess is he drinks daily, perhaps a 6 pack per night. He also smokes pot.
He was never disrespectful to our now elderly mom and he has always been close to me and our sister; even referring to me as his “hero” This has all changed over 3 years or less.
Today, because he was raging at a family member, I asked “what is WRONG with you?” He attacked verbally. He spit at me, called me, mom, and her husband horrible names and told me twice he hopes I die! What causes this?
He has let his hygiene go, his house is unfit to live in and I worry about him but mostly the impact on his 5 year old special needs son who doesn’t live there but has visitation. The little guy was triggered–he has seen his mommy and daddy argue loudly since infancy. He has also witnessed his mom hitting his dad. They aren’t married and the little guy lives with her.
Our elderly mom sobs that her family is falling apart. My brother and sister just lost their father in January (their dad sexually abused me and was verbally and sometimes physically abusive to them) so I know my brother is grieving but his rage and verbal abuse has been going on for a few years now. He refuses to get help! I reported to DHS once (when my nephew was 10 months old) due to drinking and anger issues with both parents (not at my nephew)and they denied any problems, the house wasn’t bad back then. I was banned from seeing the little one for nearly 2 years because I tried to protect him. What can I do to get my brother some help? I thought he was going to punch me in the face today! Thank you!