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My Ex-Girlfriend Keeps Going Back to Her Ex-Husband

My ex GF has 3 kids. She divorced her husband 2 years ago. He has done a lot of mental, emotional abuse and manipulation to her and the kids. The recent one is that he threatened to take the kids away from her if her gf wasn’t gone by that night. Her gf was really nice and did everything for the kids and her. It broke her heart and the kids. A day later, she ended up sitting with her ex husband like nothing happened. What my question is, is why does she keep going back to him and apologizing to every time. She knows that he’s a bad person, but still goes back to him.

A:  The children, finances, and other factors may be reasons that bond them together beyond him being a “good” or “bad” person. The key is for you to learn more about this by having a conversation with your girlfriend about her behavior, while explaining how difficult it is for you to see her do this. These conversations will help the intimacy between the two of you evolve.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

My Ex-Girlfriend Keeps Going Back to Her Ex-Husband

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: http://www.dare2behappy.com/. He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). My Ex-Girlfriend Keeps Going Back to Her Ex-Husband. Psych Central. Retrieved on June 22, 2018, from https://psychcentral.com/ask-the-therapist/2018/03/06/my-ex-girlfriend-keeps-going-back-to-her-ex-husband/

 

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