I’m sorry you’re having such a difficult time. Don’t give up. As you noted in your letter you need support. You have attempted to reach out to mental health professionals but apparently they have not returned your calls. I hope you will keep trying. If they do not return your call, try again and keep calling until someone answers your inquiry. A therapist or social worker can:
- Help you apply for financial assistance such as Medicaid. Medicaid is a program for individuals with limited financial resources. An application to Medicaid may also help you access medical and mental health insurance.
- Help you apply for money for housing. You may be eligible for Section 8 housing. I understand that you do not want a “handout or charity” but it may be what you need at this time to help you secure a stable, affordable home.
- Direct you to a program that can help you access grant monies for college. You began college but were unable to afford it. Perhaps if you had more funding you could return. Completing your college education may enable you to pursue a higher paying job. A higher paying job would allow you to pursue stable housing, among other things. This would be a major step toward independence and stability. In addition, completing a college degree program could also help increase your self-esteem and self-confidence. There is a positive correlation between life accomplishments such as graduating from college and self-esteem.
- Deal with your personal problems. A therapist can give you wise advice about how to build your life. A therapist could also help you emotionally stabilize and coach you about how to have a more functional relationship with your mother. A therapist could be a major source of support for you. At this time, you virtually have no support. In addition, he or she may be able to help you find a support group to join. Having support would help you feel empowered.
I believe with the right help and support your life will begin to improve. As I mentioned above, I recognize that you do not like the idea of asking for a “handout.” Perhaps you feel that there is a negative stereotype associated with welfare or charity. Some people feel like asking for help is equivalent to being “weak.” If you hold those opinions, I hope you will reconsider, at least temporarily. At this time in your life you could greatly benefit from the aforementioned programs, and many others. They could be the catalyst that propels you to become the independent person you are striving to be.
Please continue your efforts to contact mental health professionals. You clearly have the motivation and desire to improve but what’s stopping you may be a lack of support and access to the necessary resources. If those connections can be made I believe that your life will improve. Thank you for your question. If you have additional questions or comments, please write back. I wish you well.
This article has been updated from the original version, which was originally published here on February 20, 2010.