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I’m Always in FEAR of Getting Hurt … and Other Issues Too

I’ve been haunted by a couple of feelings lately, it’s most certainly not the first time to have them, I suffered from most of them for around 10 years:

1- I always feel lonely. Always.
2- I have HUGE FEARS that I might want something and not be able to have it, to the extent that I keep pursing things that I don’t want just to make sure they’re there in case i wanted them. I get heartbroken A LOT in the process. I can’t take it anymore.
3- I feel so disappointed.
4- I don’t know what would happen to me that I won’t get bored of after a while. hence, I already feel bored before doing something that I’m excited about.
5- I don’t even know what I believe is right or wrong and don’t now how to find it. I feel lost. (From Egypt)

A:  Many people believe that boredom and loneliness is caused by depression. But some new research indicates it may be the other way around. What this means is that the work you have to do is in connecting to others to start building a support system, learning how to make connections, and talking about your difficulties with others.

I highly recommend group therapy as it will help you learn all these things in one place. Learning how to connect to others, supporting others when you can, and pushing yourself will be the best way to tackle these issues.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

I’m Always in FEAR of Getting Hurt … and Other Issues Too

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: http://www.dare2behappy.com/. He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

APA Reference
Tomasulo, D. (2018). I’m Always in FEAR of Getting Hurt … and Other Issues Too. Psych Central. Retrieved on June 23, 2018, from https://psychcentral.com/ask-the-therapist/2018/02/18/im-always-in-fear-of-getting-hurt-and-other-issues-too/

 

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