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Don’t Know What I Say Is True

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It takes a cataclysmic life event for this facade that I’ve constructed to fall to pieces. I’ve built an entire persona based off lies. And in the day to day, I couldn’t distinguish what is real. It took destroying a relationship to realize. And even now,I have to yell “No” to the voice in my head that’s already trying to convince me that I tried to slam into a guard rail. Just another story to lie about to the people I care about. I’m not sure how much more of being this thing I’ve become that I can take. I’ve tried therapy, but it’s all been for nothing so far. I just want to stop hurting people. I want to stop feeling like everything I touch turns to ash. Thanks.

Don’t Know What I Say Is True

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  There are many reasons for lying to yourself and others, but the correction for this is something you have already displayed. There is a you that is a witness to these lies. A you that reported them here, and a you that desperately wants to change. This part of you is the part that can ultimately make better decisions, manage relationships, and find something authentic to be proud of.

I would highly recommend a therapist skilled in cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT). He or she can help you start dismantling these lies and use your courage to move to a more honest and authentic life.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

Don’t Know What I Say Is True

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). Don’t Know What I Say Is True. Psych Central. Retrieved on April 19, 2019, from
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