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I’ve Started to Realize…

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Today, I realized that talking about my problems provides me no relief. Instead, talking just amplifies my negative feelings, but keeping my mouth shut about everything certainly isn’t a solution either. I haven’t officially seen my therapist in a little over a week. I just don’t know what to do because I’m getting increasingly depressed by the minute and every second that goes by makes me want to slice my wrist open. I feel overwhelmed, and I hate everyone. (From the USA)

I’ve Started to Realize…

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  The work right now is to break the cycle of repetitive thoughts about the past and present. Ruminating about what’s wrong and not working tends to make things worse — not better — and finding ways to interrupt these thoughts is a place to start. Learning how to counteract them is something you can train your mind to do.

I recommend the book The Resilience Factor to start learning how to challenge your thoughts, and to begin using our forums for right now to gain some support. When you do see your therapist let him or her know that you need some tools other than talking about the problems that can help you.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

I’ve Started to Realize…

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). I’ve Started to Realize…. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 23, 2019, from
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