From a teen in Canada: So here’s the deal, I’ve never had a good childhood, i’ve dealt with issues like depression and suicidal ideation, and the one thing which has recently become more intense, was that I’ve always had trouble understanding how other people felt. Empathy is difficult for me, I find that I have to force emotions out of myself to at least appear sane to others.
I don’t think i’m a bad person, I do lie often though, but only because I have to, for the sake of my goals. And I would never intentionally hurt anyone, under most circumstances. Sometimes I do get violent thoughts and urges to hurt people though, I spent a few months in this phase where I was perfectly fine with committing crimes, but only if I got away with it.
My point is, I’m pretty sure I have some form of mild sociopathy. I am not very anti-social, but I can see myself rotating through many friends or relationships out of boredom. Thanks for reading.
A: I can’t make a diagnosis on the basis of a letter, of course. You would need a face to face evaluation by a licensed therapist for that. But I can tell you that I don’t think you are sociopathic. It’s more likely that you are still working through the normal self-centeredness of adolescence.
The teen years are an important time during which people work on figuring out who they are, who they want to be with, and what they want to do it life. It often is a time of unstable feelings and unstable relationships. It’s not unusual for a teen to look somewhat sociopathic at some point during the process. If you continue to question whether you are in the normal range, I do suggest you talk with a therapist. It’s likely that you will find it reassuring. On the off chance that there is some sociopathy, it will provide a forum for working on it.
I wish you well,