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Lacking Strong Emotions

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I’m not sure if how I feel with emotions is normal or not. I don’t ever feel annoyed, rarely feel anything with happiness and anger, never know when and if I am stressed, etc. If I’m annoyed or mad or sad then I can tell by the expression on my face and how my voice wants to sound and how my body wants to act. The only times I ever know I’m stressed are when I get an urge to hurt myself, the stronger the urge the more stressed I am. Is how I feel emotions normal? (From the USA)

Lacking Strong Emotions

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  The fact that it takes you wanting to hurt yourself before you feel anything is something that you want to understand and correct. When our threshold for pain is so high it means we are not tuned into taking care of ourselves as well as we could be. Start by going to your general physician to get a medical check-up to make sure everything is okay there. When you go, let the physician know how you are feeling and he or she can help you get connected to a therapist.

You don’t want to be ready to hurt yourself to know when you are stressed. You’ve taken a good first step by writing us here. Now take care of yourself by getting a check-up.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

Lacking Strong Emotions

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). Lacking Strong Emotions. Psych Central. Retrieved on April 18, 2019, from
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