You must be beside yourself with worry about your family member. It’s normal for someone to have an anxiety reaction to a traumatic event. When a person can’t settle back down on her own, it’s up to those who love her to give her the help and support she needs — just as you are trying to do.
I suggest that you find a specialist in psychological trauma in your area and make an appointment for you and others who are close to your family member. Confer with the psychologist about how best to help her feel safe and how to bring her into treatment. During a meeting among those who care under the direction of a professional, you’ll all be able to figure out who should do what. Please don’t wait to do this. The longer any distress goes untreated, the harder it can be to treat.
I wish you all well.
This article has been updated from the original version, which was originally published here on January 6, 2008.