Please slow down. Finding out that your husband looked up his ex is not enough of a reason to up and leave him. There’s too much at stake to take such drastic action without finding out more about yourself, your husband, and your marriage. Maybe he is being unfaithful to you. Or maybe he just wants to stay in touch with someone who was once important in his life but kept it from you because he knew it would upset you. Either way, some professional help for both of you is in order. Please consider going into couples counseling together to settle the old girlfriend issue once and for all. You do not want to live out your life always feeling like you are competing with her. He doesn’t want to live out his life feeling like your are always on the lookout for disloyalty. You loved each other enough to bring two children into the world. That’s reason enough to put in a few months with a counselor.
I wish you well.
This article has been updated from the original version, which was originally published here on January 1, 2008.