Whom should we love most? the one whom we miss when we are happy or the one when we are sad? Among these two, whom should we choose to spend our life with. (From India)

A: Neither. In both of the choices you want to share something and are not able to. In the first, there is longing to share your joy. In the second, your vulnerability. When we search for love we want the person we can have both with — each of these is only half of what you need.