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Whom Should We Love Most?

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Whom should we love most? the one whom we miss when we are happy or the one when we are sad? Among these two, whom should we choose to spend our life with. (From India)

Whom Should We Love Most?

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Neither. In both of the choices you want to share something and are not able to. In the first, there is longing to share your joy. In the second, your vulnerability. When we search for love we want the person we can have both with — each of these is only half of what you need.

Whom Should We Love Most?

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). Whom Should We Love Most?. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 20, 2019, from
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