Hello. My husband exaggerates pain that “I have inflicted” on him.
Let’s say he slightly bumps his toe against my foot under the table. He will start screaming: “oh you broke my toe” or “are you trying to break my toe????” and then he expects me to apologize like if I have committed a crime.
It is extremely frustrating and I want to know if there is some kind of term or diagnosis for such behavior?
Thank you. (From Italy)
A: The term is emotional abuse. This is little more that a variation on emotional abuse. Speak up. Let him know this isn’t okay, and that he is doing it in a way that is childish and demeaning to you. If he doesn’t make a self-correction, I would ask him to go with you to couples therapy. If he doesn’t choose to go, I’d encourage you to seek individual therapy to get support.