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How Do I Get Over Noticing Other People’s Flaws?

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From a teen in the U.S.: So whenever I start to like someone and they begin to actually get close to me I begin to dislike them or find flaws and then everything they do becomes annoying and I can’t stand to be around them. This happens to people I have crushes on. This person I liked admitted they had feelings for me and I thought I had feelings for them but I just began to feel annoyed. Please help, what’s wrong with me

How Do I Get Over Noticing Other People’s Flaws?

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At 15, it is normal to be ambivalent about wanting to get involved romantically. Most kids start wanting to date but are also at least a little afraid of it. Showing interest in someone means risking rejection. Getting involved means making important decisions about how much of yourself to share with another person. It means figuring out how much to trust someone and making decisions about physical intimacy and sex. It’s likely that you, like lots of kids your age, are avoiding having to deal with all of that by finding reasons to dislike the person you were initially interested in.

It might help if you figure out for yourself what you are and are not ready for in terms of a relationship. If you are clear about your own boundaries it will be easier to maintain them if you feel pushed by another person to do things you don’t want to do. Also — take it slow. It’s normal for someone your age to pretty much stick to doing things with a group of friends for awhile. That lets you learn more about relationships — and have some fun — without having to make any commitment to a particular person.

I wish you well.
Dr. Marie

How Do I Get Over Noticing Other People’s Flaws?

Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker

Dr. Marie is licensed as both a psychologist and marriage and family counselor. She specializes in couples and family therapy and parent education. Follow her on Facebook or Twitter.

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Hartwell-Walker, D. (2018). How Do I Get Over Noticing Other People’s Flaws?. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 25, 2019, from https://psychcentral.com/ask-the-therapist/2017/10/18/how-do-i-get-over-noticing-other-peoples-flaws/
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