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Am I a Psychopath?

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Basically, I think I may be psychopathic or have more tendencies than is considered normal. I’m mostly posting this out of curiosity as I’d like to know more if possible, though I’m not really expecting a reply.

I’ve noticed that I tend to react to certain things in a way that is expected, not because I actually feel this way. Mostly it is when it comes to empathizing with people. I’ve experienced deaths in the family and I haven’t felt anything, maybe a slight annoyance as awful as it sounds, because of the things that I’m expected to do after. I’ve had a friend tell me they were raped, but I didn’t feel anything when she told me. It could have been shock but I don’t think it was. The only times I’ve really felt sorry for people or similar is in books/movies/games and sometimes people very close to me if I think things over and take the time to really look into it.

I’ve been told I can come across cold and disdainful of most people, especially those I don’t know. I don’t hurt animals which apparently is a common trait in psychopaths, I lie easily and often though and I do use people if I want to or I need something.

I’d like to know someone else opinion on this but I don’t want to see a counsellor or psychiatrist just yet. If anyone is able to reply I would appreciate it.

Thanks. (From New Zealand)

Am I a Psychopath?

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  The way to understand this is to realize that your concern is enough to have a one-time meeting with a therapist. You obviously are anxious about your reactions and, rather than try to label it one way or another, it may simply be best to talk about the concern.

You’ve taken a good first step here, and I would encourage you to take the next step and discuss this with someone. It can only help.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

Am I a Psychopath?

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Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). Am I a Psychopath?. Psych Central. Retrieved on November 27, 2020, from
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