Have you talked to your family about this? It’s understandable that you want family members to want to go to bat for you without saying anything. They may be unaware of your insecurities. You may put on such a good front that they think you’re able to roll with whatever others say. They may have reasons for not wanting to take on a family member in a public forum like Facebook. Then again, they may be insensitive clods. I can’t tell from a letter. But if you haven’t had a heart to heart with your kids, I do urge you to do so. Our kids, even as adults, sometimes forget that their moms have feelings too.
I wish you well.