Generally speaking, people who lie about themselves do so to appear more interesting or likable to other people. They want people to think highly of them. They may not be happy with themselves and feel like they need to embellish the truth so that people will like them. They tend to lack self-confidence and are insecure.
You also mentioned wanting to be in a different world than your own. That would suggest that you are unhappy, which might also be contributing to why you lie. If you were happy and contented with your life, lying in the manner that you have described might never have crossed your mind.
Thankfully, these are common problems that can be effectively addressed with counseling.
Ask your parents to assist you in finding a mental health professional in your community. Counseling will help you to determine why you feel compelled to lie but most importantly how to stop. It’s not enough to understand why you do it. Knowing why doesn’t prevent you from doing it. Counseling can teach you how to have more appropriate social interactions and relationships with people so that you don’t feel the need to resort to lying. Treatment might also help your family understand your behavior and how to better support you.
Be honest with your parents and tell them that you want help. You can even tell them that you wrote to us at Psych Central and that counseling was recommended. It is the ideal solution to this problem. It would help both you and your family.
Please also remember that lying is very common, much more common than the average person wants to admit. You are not the only person who lies. Many of the people, that you have lied to, also told lies to other people, on the very same day that you lied to them. It appears that you never told a lie to hurt someone. You lied to make yourself appear more interesting or to get sympathy or to appear more important, etc. From what you have written, it seems that you have never lied for malicious purposes. White lies are very common, very understandable and very forgivable. Good luck, my young friend.
Dr. Kristina Randlle