I am so, so glad that you have contacted a counselor. You need some support and also some practical help for this situation. Please tell her everything that you’ve told me. She will know how to best protect the most vulnerable person in this situation, your granddaughter, and will help you decide how to be supportive of your daughter while taking care of yourself.
The WebMD website states, “Psychotic depression is a subtype of major depression that occurs when a severe depressive illness includes some form of psychosis. The psychosis could be hallucinations (such as hearing a voice telling you that you are no good or worthless), delusions (such as, intense feelings of worthlessness, failure, or having committed a sin) or some other break with reality. Psychotic depression affects roughly one out of every four people admitted to the hospital for depression.
According to the National Institute of Mental Health, a person who is psychotic is out of touch with reality. People with psychosis may hear “voices.” Or they may have strange and illogical ideas. For example, they may think that others can hear their thoughts or are trying to harm them. Or they might think they are possessed by the devil or are wanted by the police for having committed a crime that they really did not commit.”
It’s possible that there is a psychotic dimension to your daughter’s depression. It’s also possible that birthing a child made things worse for her. (Postpartum depression sometimes does show up as late as 2 years following the birth of a child.) When people talk about suicide, they are in desperate need of help and need immediate attention. When a small child is in the care of someone suicidal, it’s even more important to intervene.
Please consider calling her therapist to share what your daughter told you. Her therapist can’t give you any information. In fact, the therapist can’t even confirm that your daughter is his or her patient due to the rules of confidentiality. But the therapist can listen and can tell your daughter that you are concerned. This gives the therapist an opening to talk about her suicidal feelings. Your daughter will probably be angry that you got involved but better to deal with her anger than to live with regrets. This is one of those times when she may see you as her worst enemy for doing the things that will save her life.
I wish you well.
This article has been updated from the original version, which was originally published here on August 24, 2007.