My ex-wife and I have a rule in our divorce decree that both parents have to give their approval if the other parent wants to take the children to play therapy. I have requested that they attend therapy and she “No, if they need to talk to someone they can talk to me.” I’ve now filed paperwork with the courts for a judge to hopefully allow me to take them to therapy. She was given this news two days ago and is extremely angry. My ex-wife has borderline personality disorder which has made everything increasingly messy and this morning she had an inappropriate outburst in front of the children.
We were all at the children’s school and she started yelling in front of the kids about going to court and she said they know all about what I’m trying to do. The children are 4, 7 and 8.
My question is, tonight I have them for one evening before their summer break begins and I won’t see them for a week. Should I sit them down this evening and talk to them about the therapy that their mother mentioned? She’s started the process of parent alienation with the children and numerous times she’s told the kids inappropriate things about our divorce and is trying to make me look like the bad guy by convincing them that Dad thinks something is wrong with them.
My attorney suggested I not talk to the kids about what happened this morning at school.
Do you agree? I feel like they need to hear my side and be comforted. I feel by not saying anything, she’s gaining even more control of the kids and their thoughts.
We don’t have a court date set just yet, so right now I’m not sure they will even be allowed to go to therapy. It just depends on what the judge decides. (From the USA)