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Need Advice for a Difficult Decision

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Hi, I am a 16 years old teenager and I think I’m keeping myself from succeeding. I have two options for my future : art school (which is what I really want) or engineering school . Drawing is my passion and people say I’m really good at it but I keep telling myself that I’m not good enough to the point that I’m too scared to draw now. I keep telling myself that I’m terrible and that I’ll never make it as an artist which is why I think of going to engineering school. That would make most of my surroundings happy and I could do it if I completely gave up drawing to work on it. I know my parents would like that better because they keep yelling at me to quit drawing so I can do homework. I’m just not confident enough to go to art school, but I will be miserable if i give it up. What should I do?? (From France)

Need Advice for a Difficult Decision

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 Everything I know about success involves passion and perseverance, something we call “grit”. I will recommend you and your parents read Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance by Angela Duckworth on the topic — and for you to follow your passion. You can make adjustments as you go. I’d also talk to a guidance counselor at your high school to get some feedback about improving your confidence, making a plan, and a decision.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

Need Advice for a Difficult Decision

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). Need Advice for a Difficult Decision. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 25, 2019, from
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