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I’m Lost and Starts Being Negative

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Lately, I’ve been feeling down, and lost. I’ve been studying really hard the past few months to graduate and after graduate I still need to study to get into university. But, I feel so tired of studying and just feeling lost and worthless. I can’t find any motivation, I even lost interest in my hobby and passion (drawing). I even haven’t draw for about two weeks and I used to draw almost everyday.

Somedays, I felt so sad that I start crying without knowing why. My mind starts telling me bad things like I’m so worthless, I’m going to fail, I won’t make my parents happy, and I’m nothing compared to my friends. I even skipped my courses class and when my school friend’s dad looking at me when I’m going somewhere (we’re neighbor) my mind starts saying that he’s underestimating me. I’m starting to think that everyone’s think that I’m stupid.

When I feel really down, sometimes I start to take blunt things like pencil and stab it into my arm until it left bruises. I’ve take a depression quiz in this site and it says I have severe depression. What is happening to me? I don’t want to have these thoughts and come back from feeling lost. Thank you for responding. (From Indonesia)

I’m Lost and Starts Being Negative

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 Thank you for writing us here. Your feelings sound like they have a lot to do with their timing. You are feeling this way right after graduation. Right now, you are in-between settings and you do not have structured goals, familiar daily routines and friends around as you did in school.

I would work now on getting a plan for you to begin taking classes and be around people. Find a drawing class or audit another type of class at the university. You need to have a challenge and goals in front of you.

I would then talk to the counselors at the university to get some therapy for the depression. They can also help determine if medicine might be helpful as well.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

I’m Lost and Starts Being Negative

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Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). I’m Lost and Starts Being Negative. Psych Central. Retrieved on December 1, 2020, from
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