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I Want Help But My Parents Disagree

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From a teen in the U.S.: I think I might have depression and I have thought of suicide since I was 11. I have very dark and depressing thoughts and I often miss school because I can’t event make my self get out of bed. I want help. I don’t want to go on like this but my mom doesn’t believe in mental disorders. She says they are nothing but a load of crap made up to help the government sell drugs. The rest of my family agrees.

I tried to ask for help from my guidance counselor but he wanted to call my mom. I know if she finds out she will be angry and I don’t want that. I am afraid if I tell anyone my mom will find out but I still want help to fix this. Do you have any suggestions on how I might be able to go about this situation?

I Want Help But My Parents Disagree

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I’m very sorry you are struggling. I’m sorry that your family has a mistaken view of the mental health profession. I do understand their concern. I agree that there are kids who are prescribed medication instead of being helped to learn how to cope. That being said, medication is only one small part of what we do. Most people don’t need it. Most are helped with talk therapy alone. You can certainly refuse medication even if it is offered. Perhaps if you told your mom that you aren’t interested in medication, that you just want to talk to someone, she will be more willing to help you find a therapist.

In the meantime, if you do need to talk, you can call the Boys Town Hotline. Don’t be put off by the name. Girls use the service too. Counselors are available 24/7 to talk to teens. It’s free and confidential. You can phone or chat online. Here’s the website:

And — since you have trouble getting out of bed in the morning, you may be suffering from sleep deprivation. If you aren’t getting 7 – 9 hours of sleep every night, that might be part of the problem. Sleep deprivation is often mistaken for depression. Check out this website for the National Sleep Foundation:

I wish you well.
Dr. Marie

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Hartwell-Walker, D. (2018). I Want Help But My Parents Disagree. Psych Central. Retrieved on August 6, 2020, from
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