My father’s a good worker. He pays the bills, taxes, etc. But he’s not a very nice dad, I guess. A few years ago, he did something at work and as a result, he got fired and a probation of around five years – the maximum penalty in Michigan. I cannot say he didn’t deserve it.
Anyway, the judge ruled that his family could not stay in Michigan (neither could he) as we could motivate him to come back, so we all had to leave the state. Unfortunately, due to the circumstances around which my dad was fired, he was unable to find a job in the US. So we moved to India. I became depressed there. It was only within the past 2 years that my crying and anger and self-starvation forced him to move us back here. But he still doesn’t have a job here and works from India to pay the bills. Recently, he visited us, and from the moment he has been here, he has criticized every single move my mother and I make. His latest insult is calling me a “carbon copy of my mother.” Better than being a washed-up loser like him, and I’d say this to his face if I wasn’t afraid of permanent bruising. He’s angry that we left him to fend for himself in India; I understand that. But I also think he has no right to be angry. When I was dealing with my crippling depression, he offered me no sympathy whatsoever and told me to deal with it. I expect him to do the same. He has embarrassed my mother in front of very close friends and wastes no opportunity to insult the US (the very country he claimed to love before he got fired). He threatens to stop giving us money all the time. He gets angry when we don’t pick up the phone whenever he calls us even if we’re 2 minutes late home. He gives us these never-ending lectures about responsibility and saving toilet paper and the failure of the American economy. I just wish he would stop, but whenever we ask him to he either gets angry or does it more, just to provoke us. My mother does not do anything about this because she is afraid he won’t fund us anymore. I, however, am done with him, but I feel guilty. Why? (From the USA)