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Why Do I Seem So Aggressive?

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Why do I get so upset with my friends, family, and other loved ones, but I don’t get upset with strangers? I know that I am not just converting the anger that I had at someone at work because it’s almost every day. As soon as I get into the car with them it’s almost an immediate mood change. And I’m not mad at them some of the time… shoot I’m not upset with and one. Why is that? (From the USA)

Why Do I Seem So Aggressive?

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 It is hard to know from the details here. But I am very glad you are asking yourself this question. My best guess is that you feel safe enough with family and friends to let it happen. If that is the case then know that your anger is building up during the day, and I would highly recommend beginning or increasing your exercise routine and consider adding yoga and meditation to your stress management practice. This is likely to help you cope directly with the build up.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

Why Do I Seem So Aggressive?

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). Why Do I Seem So Aggressive?. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 19, 2019, from
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