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My Past Problems Are Re-Occuring

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As a smaller child, I used to always hear people calling my name, even though they actually were not. I learned to live with it, although I never told anybody about it because I was afraid of how they would react. Normally I can ignore it and continue with my everyday life. Me and my mom have never had a good relationship, but when she found out that I have a girlfriend at school (being a girl myself) things went downhill from there. Now, all I ever hear is her calling my name in an angered tone that I can’t ignore, and now it’s even upgraded to her standing in my room, just standing and yelling, or so it appears. When I’m around her now, I can’t even tell if it’s actually her or just me and my mind. I can’t hold a conversation with the real her because I keep thinking of all the things the fake version of her has said. Even worse, I can’t sleep with her standing there watching me and screaming at me in my mind. It won’t stop. I’m pretty sure this isn’t normal. What can I do to make this stop? (From the USA)

My Past Problems Are Re-Occuring

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 Thank you for emailing us. I admire the fact that you are coping with this on your own for a while. But it is time to get some help. The best thing for you now is to tell your parents you aren’t feeling well and to ask to go to a physician. When you go, let the physician know what is going on. The physician is in the right position of helping. He or she will be able to determine what you need.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

My Past Problems Are Re-Occuring

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Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). My Past Problems Are Re-Occuring. Psych Central. Retrieved on December 5, 2020, from
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