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I Can’t Seem to Control My Actions Sometimes

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I have a problem with doing the wrong thing. I can see myself but I can’t stop myself. I can only describe it as being in the passenger seat of a car, but I’m also driving. I can see myself driving recklessly, I’m screaming at myself to stop but the driver ignores all my pleading. It has ruined jobs, friendships, and worst of all my relationship with the woman I love. I drink heavily and that makes it worse. I’m  working on my alcoholism , but what do I  do about not being able to control of my actions sometimes? (From the USA)

I Can’t Seem to Control My Actions Sometimes

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 I admire your desire and persistence in trying to deal with these issues. The alcoholism is often tied into problems with anger and impulse control. Rather than see you trying to control your actions as a separate concern, work on the most central issue — your drinking — which will help I you with everything else. I’d begin by going daily to meetings for Alcoholics Anonymous.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

I Can’t Seem to Control My Actions Sometimes

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). I Can’t Seem to Control My Actions Sometimes. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 22, 2019, from
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