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I have been diagnosed with depression. I noticed it when i was 15 and went to 2/3 sessions of counselling where i felt uncomfortable talking to someone and quickly left. It was only around the age of 17 i was diagnosed and given medication. Although i am taking my medication and no longer feeling/attempting suicide, I still feel (or lack of) the same as before. I feel as though my emotions are dulled, I rarely get angry and when something good happens i cant seem to feel happy/excited. Normally, this hasn’t bothered me but recently my granddad died, i loved my granddad i was very fond of him and him of me yet when he died, i was not upset. The same thing happened with my nan years before when she passed, i was not upset and only cried because it was what my sisters had responded and seemed the appropriate reaction. Is this normal with depression? (From the UK)

Emotional Conflict

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I appreciate how difficult it can be to cope with unwanted feelings. I would do two things. First, since you are already on the medication, I would talk to the person prescribing it and ask if it may need to be adjusted. Over time medicines may lose their impact — and with the recent loss a reevaluation sounds right.

Secondly, I’d give talk therapy a try again. This time you may want to find a counselor that specializes in grief as this is your current concern. The shift in focus on what you are talking about and your age now may change how you react to the process.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

Emotional Conflict

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). Emotional Conflict. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 19, 2019, from
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