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Issues with Blondes

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When i am around blondes i have a fantasy of strangling them and watching the life drain from their body, i have never been to a psychiatrist before, i have written to this page before about not being able to trust anyone and wanting to hurt people.anyway my friend had told me that who i want to hurt is important so this is a follow up.

Issues with Blondes

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In some respects, the target of your homicidal fantasies is irrelevant. The main concern involves your ability to control your behavior. If you think that you might act out violently, then it’s imperative that you seek help. It would be the only responsible course of action.

Everyone has fantasies. If we examined the nature of these fantasies, we would likely find many disturbing themes. Fantasies are not illegal. You are free to think whatever you want but if engaging in a particular type of fantasy increases your propensity for violence, then immediate help is necessary.

Mental health professionals will know how to help you. They will not judge you. They will not be surprised by the nature of your fantasies. Some researchers have argued that homicidal fantasies are common. This is a correctable problem but only if you are open to accepting treatment. I hope that you will consider consulting a mental health professional to help you address this problem. Ignoring it would be a mistake. Please take care.

Dr. Kristina Randle

Issues with Blondes

Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW

Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW is a licensed psychotherapist and Assistant Professor of Social Work and Forensics with extensive experience in the field of mental health. She works in private practice with adults, adolescents and families. Kristina has worked in a large array of settings including community mental health, college counseling and university research centers.

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Randle, K. (2018). Issues with Blondes. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 19, 2019, from
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