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11-Year-Old Son

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My son tells me he’s fat ugly and he hates himself he would rather be dead or wished he had not been born i asked him if someone or something is making him feel this way he said no that it was in himself and cannot explain why he is feeling like he is what should i do?

11-Year-Old Son

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My guess is he is telling you because he needs help and doesn’t know how to fix this himself. Don’t wait. You son should not be feeling these things and — whatever the reason — he needs to talk to a good child therapist to help him sort it through. The find help tab at the top of the page will help you find someone in your area.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

11-Year-Old Son

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). 11-Year-Old Son. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 22, 2019, from
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