There’s an old saying that some friends are for a reason, some for a season, and some for a lifetime. All are valuable. All give us companionship and support in this crazy thing called life. But, as the saying says, not all of the people we meet and like will be lifetime friends. Some will teach us something we need to know. Some will be important to us for awhile. And probably about 3 – 5 will be close, lifetime friends. (That’s the average, by the way. Most people have 3 – 5 good friends who stick with each other for a very long time.)
It makes sense to me that you connected with your fellow trainee so quickly. You were both in a novel and perhaps anxiety-provoking situation. You had much in common. You were thrown together many hours of every day. It makes absolute sense that by the end of the training, you felt the potential was there for a lifetime buddy. But then reality in the form of distance and regular life stepped in. If he lived next door to each other, you might have kept it going. But, you’re right, living 3 hours apart means that you won’t have the opportunity to get to know each other better or to widen the circle by including your fiances and by doing things together regularly.
Value that “friendship” for what it was — one of the “for a season” kind. In this case the “season” was the training period. Or maybe it was one of the “for a reason” type — in that it may have helped each of you manage a challenging training while away from the people who love you.
I wish you well.