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Two of My Best Friends Said They No Longer Want to Be Friends with Me Anymore

My 2 best friends have been ignoring me for the past 4 weeks and I just spoke to both of them. They both said they don’t want to be friends anymore. This all started because they thought I was around them too much. One friend even said that dealing with me is stressful and bad for her health. I’m currently on the floor crying because I did nothing to deserve this and we were all fine the day before. I simply hung out with one friend after school twice and she got annoyed with me and wanted to be alone yet didn’t tell me. So in 30 minutes of speaking with both of them, I have lost 2 of my closest friends. Also we all have the same friends because we are all in the same friend group.

A: I am so sorry to hear that your friends are treating you so poorly. I know how devastating it can feel when the people in our life change for no apparent reason. I wouldn’t try to change their opinion or get more information. Instead I would keep developing the other friendships you have, and put your effort into developing new ones. Your profile says that you are in 9th grade, and by the sound of it this is the first time you’ve been hurt in this way. One of the lessons in life that most of us have to learn is how to walk away from situations that come out of the blue, don’t make a lot of sense, and have hurt us. By putting your effort into current and future friendships you will be learning how to not to lose yourself when others treat you badly.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

Two of My Best Friends Said They No Longer Want to Be Friends with Me Anymore

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: http://www.dare2behappy.com/. He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2017). Two of My Best Friends Said They No Longer Want to Be Friends with Me Anymore. Psych Central. Retrieved on June 21, 2018, from https://psychcentral.com/ask-the-therapist/2017/03/15/two-of-my-best-friends-said-they-no-longer-want-to-be-friends-with-me-anymore/

 

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