You might be describing the symptoms of depression. It is common for people who are depressed to feel the way you do.
You might say that there’s no reason for you to be depressed because you have lived a fortunate life. You may have had good fortune but it doesn’t prevent depression. Of course we should count our blessings, but material things don’t equate to happiness.
If you’re unhappy, then it should be explored with a therapist. Thus far, you have relied on yourself, friends and family for insight and advice. It would be much wiser to consult a therapist who has both specialized training for treating these types of problems and who has the benefit of objectivity. Friends and family can provide social support but they can’t do therapy nor can they effectively be objective.
Your friend believes that your thinking patterns may be the problem. That is possible. Many theorists believe that depression is the result of faulty thinking. In fact, cognitive behavioral therapy, one of the most effective types of therapy for depression and related disorders, is based on the idea that illogical thinking patterns underlie psychological problems. The goal of CBT therapy, in part, is to assess the quality of one’s thinking, and to ensure that it is in line with reality.
Studies have shown that the majority of people, at some point in their lives, experience mental health problems. In other words, it happens to virtually everyone. It is nothing to be ashamed of. When you recognize that a problem exists and you have tried to help yourself, then it is time to seek help from a professional. Consult a local therapist about this problem. If you find a therapist you like and you actively participate in treatment, you will likely see positive results. Please take care.
Dr. Kristina Randle