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I’m Almost Positive I Have a Personality Disorder But I Don’t Know Which

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When I was about fourteen I thought I was a narcissus because I met almost all of the requirements, and I still do. Now, I match almost all of the requirements for antisocial personality disorder too. I know these quizzes aren’t meant to diagnose people but I score very high on all of them, including psychopath quizzes, and only these three and I’ve taken a lot of these quizzes.

I don’t care about others feelings, I don’t care if people die, I sometimes want to kill people too. I used to want to kill people a lot more when a couple years ago, and have actually considered killing my parents and sister before. I sometimes have to numb myself so I don’t blurt these things aloud or follow through with these actions, but after a while, I get tired of lying to myself.

Last week was the deepest I thought about the way I see things and have come to terms with my behavior: I have elaborate schemes about emotionally and sexually controlling people and I love it and feel like everyone around me is an absolute idiot, and have no problem thinking the absolute worst of anyone. I don’t care about my family, I hate doing anything I don’t want to do, and I only have relationships to manipulate people into giving me what I want. I’m obviously not going to do this because I don’t think I’ll get away with it, but if I could murder, rape and steal, without getting caught, I would do it whenever I want. I really do not care about how my actions affect others and it’s hard for me to feel bad because I’ve never felt any other way in my life. I’ve been like this since I was in preschool and I’ve learned the hard way to control it. The only time I can truly relate to someone is a hobby, but not on an emotional level. I can see people’s weaknesses very easily and unconsciously figure out who’s easiest to manipulate, but I never really feel like anyone understands me and I’m constantly lying and wearing a mask to pretend to be normal.

I’m currently seeking a psychologist for a proper diagnosis, but am I right to be worried that I have one of these disorders?

I’m Almost Positive I Have a Personality Disorder But I Don’t Know Which

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I admire your restraint and self-control in managing these symptoms. It would be fooling for me to try and diagnose you not knowing you, but I can understand why those quizzes would register the results they do. Only a qualified professional, like the one you say you are seeing, is able to make the diagnosis.

I believe this is a very good step. Understanding exactly what you are dealing with is the first step to alternatives for managing it.

For someone who says they don’t care about so many things, your concern about your symptoms says something different. The you that is worried about all of this is the you we want to learn more about. Until you have an accurate diagnosis and treatment protocol please keep up the good work of self-management.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

I’m Almost Positive I Have a Personality Disorder But I Don’t Know Which

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Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). I’m Almost Positive I Have a Personality Disorder But I Don’t Know Which. Psych Central. Retrieved on December 6, 2020, from
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