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Lack of Self Esteem and Emotional Balance

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Approximately 6 years ago, I started to believe in God. I am very studious, so please don’t consider me an average believer. Anyhow God bestowed upon me success in the form of health, reputation and education. I disobeyed Him and He took it all back, also He made my life very fragile in numerous ways. One of the worst punishment He gave me was that He stopped my growth. Now before you think “It’s all in the genes” well it’s not, my parents have an average height and according to my doctor I should have been average too but sadly I stopped growing without any explanation. Now to my real problem, I have a self esteem issue in which when walking  on the streets I feel tiny (especially in front of women). This is deemed normal for people like me. Mentally speaking, I feel worthless and feel extraordinarily detached from this world (I see the world from space!). My social skills are deteriorating day by day. I used to be an excellent man once but now I am nothing!

People used to love me, respect me, and know me. But now no one even looks at me (maybe I am not in there view :). Listen, 6 years ago I used to communicate with God, I was able to sense the unexplained good around me. It was like I was an angel. But now I feel Cursed, I feel like Lucifer or Iblees. I hope you understand my situation and will respond to help. Best Regards! Thank you! (From Canada)

Lack of Self Esteem and Emotional Balance

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While there are several ways to discuss you concerns from a psychological perspective, I am going to view this as a spiritual rather than psychological crisis. It is important to make this distinction because the approach to correcting it is different.

You have identified your age as 20, and that means that the issues that caused you to feel shift with God happened when you were 14. Whatever the transgression was that you feel God is punishing you for by stunting your growth happened as a teenager. You are now an adult and I would seek religious counsel that can help you find a way to ask for God’s compassion in helping you restore your connection with Him.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

Lack of Self Esteem and Emotional Balance

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Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). Lack of Self Esteem and Emotional Balance. Psych Central. Retrieved on December 1, 2020, from
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