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Please help me I need advice. My mother has been so controlling since grade school from my daily conversations with friends to what I wear and where I should go. She has always made me feel worthless and so I have suffered with depression and social isolation for so long. I finally applied to a university abroad and just got accepted but am very scared of what she might think. Just need advice on how to handle this sort of situation.(From New Guinea)

Mum Controlling My Life

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Don’t spend the rest of your life worrying about what your mother thinks. No matter what you’ve done she hasn’t approved, and you’ve been miserable. Trying to do what your mother wants will continue the feelings of worthlessness, depression and social isolation. Take the university offer and as soon as you get to campus talk to the people at the counseling center. They will be able to help you individuate from your mother’s clutch.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

Mum Controlling My Life

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). Mum Controlling My Life. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 20, 2019, from
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