From Sri Lanka: I am a mother of 1 child, a 3 year old. me and my husband got married after a love affair. though im his only one girlfriend, i have had 2 previous boyfriends. but i have never had any sexual contacts with my previous partners. my husband is a tough person whereas i am a fun loving person.
i grew up with my parents and my mother took care of me all the time. even after i got married i stayed with my parents home as i was doing my post graduate training and my husband worked far away from home and occassionally comes home.
the main problem is though i like to have a carefree life he doesnt. and he suspects me all the time thinking im having affairs with my co workers. and he finds faults in everything i do. i have tried to live the way he wanted but the more i try the more i fail. then i get angry as well and we fight. most of the time it gets physical and i get beaten.
in the earlier times when i showed affection towards my husband he didnt like it and said he needs space. then i too learnt not to disturb him. now he blames me that im not interested in him and that is because im having feelings for my co workers. even though i know that he wanted to have sex with me, he ruins it with saying i have gone and met some man and irritates me, and then he expects to have sex which i cannot do. then he too gets frustrated and we fight.
i am planning to finish my post graduate studies at the end of 2017. my child is 3 years and think she is also suffering because of us. me and my husband are never happy. either he gets mad with me or i get irritated. i asked him to come with me for counselling but he refuses. i want to stay with him and make this work. we are married only for 4 years. he is the only man i wanted to have a physical and a mental relationship but the way he finds faults with me is driving me mad. please let me know what to do. thank you